Sibling Rivalry

lately ni macam perasan that there is some kind of sibling rivalry between najah and nadeem.
usually the who caused it is najah la.
nadeem baru je 5 months, obviously he still doesn't know how to start a 'rivalry' or anything of that sort.
anyhow, it is not that fist fighting kind of rivalry pun, but more like competing to get my attention.
huhu.

najah easily got jealous if  i pegang nadeem lelame, especially when i am still in the middle of breastfeeding to nadeem.
she will bring her bottle along and forced herself to lie on my lap while nadeem is still sucking onto my b.
macamane tuh?
kalau tak layan, she will get all cranky and throwing tantrums.
kalau dilayan, kesian pulak dengan nadeem.

same jugak kalau pergi shopping mall.
berebut nak duduk dalam stroller jugak. selame-lame nadeem belum keluar, tak nak pulak dia duduk dalam tuh.
kalau dukung nadeem, dia nak dukung jugak.
pening.

a conversation between me and najah haritu,

"najah marah ke kalau mama ke, daddy ke, pegang nadeem lame-lame?"
and straight away she nodded and replied, "najah marah, mama."

hrmm.terkedu. kelu lidah.

"adik kan kecik lagi. tak pandai minum sendiri. tak pandai makan sendiri. tak pandai duduk lagi. najah kan dah besar. dah jadi kakak. kene la tolong adik kan?"

she angguk again, and then after a few hours buat lagi.
rase marah, rase geram, tapi faham that she's only 2 years old.
she's still trying to adjust her feeling of jealousy over a new family members.
nak marah, pukul, or cubit pun tak guna.

what's important for me is to really taking care of their little hearts.
to really listen to what they wanted to say.
to be able to love them unconditionally, no matter how tired or depressed you are at the moment.
lagi-lagi bulan ramadhan ni.
memang bertubi-tubilah kepenatannya.

here are some tips that i like to share from kidshealth on how to counter sibling rivalry.
for the rest you can read from here

• Show and tell your kids that, for you, love is not something that comes with limits.
• Let them know that they are safe, important, and loved, and that their needs will be met.
• Be proactive in giving your kids one-on-one attention directed to their interests and needs. For example, if one likes to go outdoors, take a walk or go to the park. If another child likes to sit and read, make time for that too.